What Happens When You Create Space for Pleasure

I just got back from a little solo-retreat in Portland, OR. I spent 3 days in one of my very favorite AirBnBs resting, re-centering and giving my mind and body a little space to breathe.

I do solo retreats like this at least a couple times a year and before I leave home, I always feel like they are unnecessary and a bit frivolous.

When it’s time to come back, I always wonder Why did I ever think I didn’t need this?!?!?

One reason is societal norms that tell us to prioritize work above almost everything else. And to ignore our very human need for rest, play, inspiration and pleasure.

I took time to cook myself nourishing food

And visit my favorite yarn store

But of course we need those things to feel fully alive.

You need occasional breaks from all the “shoulds” of your daily life in order to come back to yourself and remember what really matters to you.

You deserve to give yourself space and time to unplug—whether it’s a luxurious spa weekend away or an hour spent napping in the sun on a warm spring afternoon.

When you carve out time to connect with the things that make you feel good, you send all sorts of happy hormones to your brain—like dopamine and serotonin.

Annnnnnd…you’re able to show up more fully as a parent/partner/co-worker/boss/friend.

You’re also building your ability to connect with pleasure, which is key for feeling more sensual and enjoying sex more.

(Pretty cool how that works, huh?)

I journaled in the sun

And pet friendly neighborhood cats

So this is me sending you a reminder that one of the simplest things you can do to reduce stress (the nemesis of good sex!) and feel more sensation in your body—is to create intentional space for rest, play and pleasure.

If you could use a little help prioritizing pleasure and connecting with your body, I’d love to work with you. Sign up here for a complimentary chemistry call.